I’ll admit it…I suck at being a friend right now. Between three small kids, my husband, my job and trying to keep up with activities, meals and the house, I don’t have a lot of energy left over for friends. Those with kids understand. Those without, do not.
I miss hanging out with my friends. Don’t get me wrong – I love my life – but I’ve changed. I barely have time to respond to texts, and forget about writing emails. Facebook is a blur I use mainly for information about activities or pictures of out of town friends’ children. That doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the cute throwback photos you send. I smile when I see them, and mean to respond but usually forget due to complete exhaustion.
It seems I spend most of my time with the other families who share my children’s activities. They may not be the people to whom I’m closest, but it is easy social interaction. No planning is needed, we all just show up according to the schedule.
I do try to carve out some time for friends, but frequently something comes up and I either have to cancel or go late. Arriving late is really a problem since I can barely keep my eyes open past 9 pm these days.
I have a lot on my plate right now and hope my friends will cut me some slack. It will not always be this way, but the reality is my free time is almost nonexistent at the moment. I pray they will forgive and welcome me back when I am able to be a better friend in a few years. However, I know I will lose friends while taking care of young kids, unfortunately. Some people maintain high expectations I am unable to meet. To those who are patient and understanding, please know I appreciate you and promise we will pick up where we left off just as soon as I am able.