Bonus: They'll be happier adults too. A friend recently confided in me that her son, age 7, is "such a softie." She cherishes his tenderness but worries he isn't learning to be, in her words, tough. In the current climate of individualism and look-at-me culture, it makes sense that parents would choose to groom their children in grit over politeness, but parenting experts say they need both. Mettle and resilience shouldn't develop at the expense o