Valentine's Day and the single mom

If you feel awkward and a little sad on Valentine’s Day, you are not alone. As hard as it may be to battle those negative voices in your head, try to make the day special in your own way. Single mom or not, Valentine’s Day is about love. You may not have a significant other right now, but as a parent you do have a child (or children) who you love dearly.

Try to make Valentine’s Day about the kids. Create memories they will cherish forever. One of my favorite things to do on Valentine’s Day is to write my children a yearly love letter. I hang it in a frame in their bedroom, each year placing the new one on top. They will reread and treasure these letters when they are older.

My kids also enjoy a simple Valentine’s Day hunt for their gifts.  I usually create 5 clues, each one leading to the location of the next clue. I hand them the first one, which might be “Where do I lay my head at night?”. They then find the next clue under my pillow, which might be “Where do I sit to watch TV?” and so on. The gifts are small, such as a stuffed animal or a box of candy.

If time allows, I also like to make Valentine Fortune Cookies. This is a fun project to do with the kids and they love them. I use store bought fruit roll-ups to save time, but you can make from scratch if you are ambitious.

If you are still feeling blue about Valentine’s Day, try these other steps to get through the day/evening:

  1. Get together with single girlfriends as time allows for lunch, movie or game night (nothing valentine related).
  2. Reach out to older friends who might be widowed or living in a facility. Valentine’s Day might be particularly hard on them. A short visit, possibly with flowers, can brighten someone else’s day and take the focus off of yourself.
  3. Volunteer at a local food pantry. Helping others might bring joy to your heart.


These suggestions might sound simple, but getting yourself out of a negative mindset and in a place where you can create new memories with your kids can be hard. How do you get through this holiday as a single parent? We’d love to hear from you in the comment section below!



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